In a relationship we are confronted with ourself. With all our wounds, patterns and egocentric behaviors – short: with all the dirt of our past.
Our partner shows us e v e r y moment the naked truth.
How we speak, think and act – everything shows us our true self and our partner triggers and claims constantly.
S(he) is the mirror of our inner man or woman. And our relationship is the Mirror of our inner relationship – between our aspects – the male and female.
We decided to learn again how to live in a relationship with a partner, with ONE partner.
We decided to start healing -personally – on a deep level, the relationship between man and woman. We took a decision to take each other’s hand and walk the path together.
We don’t want to exploit and hurt or ignore the other part, gender, aspect anymore.
The past with its wounds and experiences, left us alone with emotions. They got their roots in these wounds. Anger, guilt, pride and depression – all these emotions are the result of an wounded and scared soul. They aren’t you.
We are afraid of the emotions of the woman, the mad fury that got the power to destroy. We‘ve met her maybe as a child embodied as our mother. We are disappointed of that man, that couldn’t understand our love, that couldn’t handle our feelings or that was cold or simply absent.
Do you know him or her? And do you feel this fear or anger?
In a relationship we are directly confronted with these topics and their results – our patterns.
We don’t believe in men anymore, we isolate ourselves or we keep on fleeing. We are searching for the perfect partner for ages, until we realize that we won’t find him or her until we are perfect – and can we be perfect? Shouldn’t we start to accept and love ourselves and the other for how we SIMPLY are ?!
Shouldn’t we start to forgive ourselves and our past?
Yes – we should.
To get into a relationship means to get brave. To get brave enough to fall into the unknown – to fall in love.
To get brave enough to jump out of our comfort zone and into that adventure.
We misunderstood sex – it is not about having an orgasm.
We misunderstood emotions – it is not about hurting each other.
We misunderstood freedom – it is not about avoiding responsibility.
We misunderstood independence- it is not about serving our ego.
A relationship makes you dependent- you want to share, you want to give love and make your partner happy.
It is not about fleeing into our small cave, smashed into our wounded and paranoid self.
Be brave and take a new road. Let us heal our relationships between man and woman first, before talking about healing the world.
While opening our heart to eachother, we, step by step, open our heart to everyone.